Updated: Oct 1, 2018
I know you’ve heard or even used the saying “I don’t trust anyone”! Trust is a touchy subject because trusting people puts you in a place of being vulnerable. By trusting someone you are giving that person a chance to let you down and that’s scary. I think the older you get the harder it is to trust people. The reason I say that is because the older you get the more let downs and hurt you have experienced. But the problem is when people let us down or break our trust we hold everyone after them accountable for the hurt they have caused.
And that’s not fair at all.
Let me give you a personal example, I have been in three relationships and the first two I was cheated on and the third relationship the guy had a whole wife smh (A blog about him is coming lol) so for me when I talk to someone I compare them to my past relationships. Which is never good!
Currently I’m talking to someone he is a nice guy, he has been very honest, and he hasn't given me a reason not to trust him. But because I have been hurt in my past relationships, it’s hard for me to trust him.
So basically, the only reason I can’t trust him is because I trusted my exes and they let me down.
I think this is one of the worst things we can do, because we wouldn’t want someone holding us accountable for what someone has done to them in their past. I am quick to tell someone “I am not your ex, so stop comparing me,” but then at the same time I won't trust them because of what an ex has done to me. That is so contradicting, but I'm sure I am not the only person who does this!
God will never say he can’t trust you because of what someone else has done. And the bible says "do to others as you would have them do to you!" Luke 6:31
As hard as it may be we have to stop penalizing people for things they haven’t done. Lack of trust can come from having bad relationships with your parents, family, friends or significant other, but at the end of the day you can’t allow past situations to affect your current or future relationships.
When you allow trust issues to get in the way it can really push people away and cause you to lose something good. You have to give people a chance and stop holding on to past hurt and let downs.
Trust is one of the most important components in any relationship and friendship, if you can’t trust someone you are wasting time because it will never work. I don’t like when people say ,"you have to earn my trust," because I think you should trust people until they give you a reason why they shouldn’t be trusted.
Don’t get me wrong everyone can’t be trusted! But you can’t allow bad past situations to stop you from trusting someone who has never given you a reason not to trust them... Because they deserve a chance. Don't you agree?
Scripture- Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways submit to him, and he will make your paths straight. ~Proverbs 3:5-6
Song- Trust ~Keyshia Cole and Monica