One thing I know for sure is that I am a great friend. I genuinely care about people and whether I personally know you or not I want to see people succeed and be great in life. But when it comes to my friends, I invest myself into my friendships, when they need help, I’m there, when they need to talk, I’m there, when they need support, I’m there, all my friends know I will always have their backs good, bad or ugly!
But as I get older, I am starting to realize that I am not getting that same energy back from some of the people I call my friends. I am a firm believer that you always support and uplift your friends and lately I have not been feeling that energy.
Someone told me that people will be your friend if they can benefit from the friendship and honestly, I agree with that to a certain extent. I think when it comes to friendships both people should benefit, for example if I am having a bad day, I should be able to call my friend for some encouragement. If my friend needs something and I have it, then they should know I got them and vice versa. But the friendship becomes unhealthy when it’s one-sided.
It's not fair to be in a one-sided friendship and no one only wants someone to reach out only when they need something. As we come to the end of the year, I encourage you to cut off friendships where you are the only one that’s investing. I have notice that sometimes people know you are a great friend and know that you will go above and beyond so they use you. If everything is going okay in their life, then you won’t hear from them. But if they need to talk or need something, you can expect a call or text.
A friendship should be 50/50 point blank period!
The energy and investments in friendships should be mutual. You should want to see your friends succeed and you should be doing any and everything you can to help your friends and they should be exalting that same energy in the friendship.
Friends help each other!!
Let’s take my blog for example it takes about 5 minutes to read and share my blog. You would think my friends would be sharing and reposting every week. Don’t get me wrong I have some great friends that read my blogs and share my blog every week and that’s what friends should do! But I also have some people I thought were friends and they haven't read or shared not one of my blogs because it doesn't benefit them. They are not getting anything from sharing my blog, so it's not important to them. But I know once I make it to where I want to be in life, they are going to be the first ones with their hand out calling me friend!
It’s time to cut these fake friends off!
I say all this to say that we are in the last month of the year don’t allow people to use you in 2019 the way you allowed it to happen in 2018. If you are in a one-sided friendship, it’s time to make some changes because you deserve friends that are giving and investing as much as you are!
Scripture-Do to others as you would have then do to you ~Luke 6:31
Song- Rose in Harlem ~Teyana Taylor