It’s Time To Weed Our Gardens
Growing up I always wanted to be surrounded by people, always wanted people to like me, and being popular was my goal. I just wanted to be known, so I did what I had to do to get people to notice me. I felt like having the nicest things would help me make more friends. But what I realized was having a lot of stuff did not help me make real friends. I was just surrounded by people who wanted what I had to offer. When I didn’t have anything to give I always ended up lonely. I noticed that when you are super nice and allow anyone to be your friend you constantly have to figure out who is actually a friend, and who is just here because it benefits them.
One of my favorite Pastors of all time (Kim Black) said, “sometimes snakes are not in the form of a slithery, sneaky, nasty reptile, but sometimes snakes are the people that smile in your face every day!”
What I have learned in life is you have to know what friendships are worth keeping, because every friend that you make in life is not supposed to be a lifelong friend. I am a firm believer that there are lifetime and seasonal friendships. Don’t get me wrong, I don’t think you should just chuck the deuces and be like yeah time is up, this friendship is dead lol. But I do think that during certain seasons in your life God place people there to help you during that season.
Also, I think you can and will outgrow friendships. Let me give you an example, if you have friends that just want to turn up and party all the time; But, you are not into that anymore, you are focused on growing in life and bettering yourself, then this is a friendship you have outgrown and it’s time to just remove yourself from this friendship. I don’t think removing yourself from friendships mean you can’t speak to them or still root for them to do well in life, it just means your growing and going a different direction in life.
Basically, if you are not surrounding yourself with people that are helping you grow in life then “it is time to weed your garden.”
Your circle should be your biggest supporters and you should be theirs. Everyone of your friends should be constantly encouraging you to do better, and there shouldn’t be any type of jealousy in a friendship! It’s 2018, and its already enough hate and jealousy in the world, you shouldn’t have to deal with that in a friendship.
I have a tendency of trying not to hurt people's feelings, so I hold on to people/friendships a lot longer than I should. The problem is if you keep weeds in your garden, then it‘s hard for the garden to grow. I feel like that’s exactly what happens when you hold on to people longer than you should, you won't be able to grow.
For instance, if you have someone in your circle praying against you, hating on you, constantly being negative, or always encouraging you to do things you already know you shouldn't be doing, then it's a possibility that person can delay your blessings, because they will always steer you in the wrong direction to make sure you’re not growing.
If your friends are not watering your garden and pushing you to achieve your goals in life, then it’s time to pull out those dead roots, and get better friends!
So, that friend that only calls when they need something, that friend that only wants you to turn up when they know you are trying to change your life, that friend that just lies for no reason, that friend that only comes around when it benefits them, and any other friend that is just a dead weed in your garden, it’s time to cut them loose.
Don't get me wrong, what God has for you is for you, and no devil in hell can stop your blessings, but sometimes surrounding yourself with the wrong people can surely delay your blessings. It’s time for us to weed our gardens, pull out all those dead roots and grow into the amazing people God created us to be…
Song- Friends ~The Carters
Scripture- Oil and perfume make the heart glad; So, does the sweetness of a friend's counsel that comes from the heart. ~ Proverbs 27:9